Girl Scouting is a Family Affair for Widowed Dad, Daughters
HOUSTON (Nov. 21, 2008) – National Family Week, which is Nov. 23-29, is set aside to encourage the premise that children do better when their families are strong, and families do better when they live in communities that help them succeed. Girl Scouts of San Jacinto Council knows the importance of families and nurtures the relationship between parents and their daughters.
One Girl Scout family, the Mogers, is a single parent household. Charlie Moger has been raising his four children single-handedly since the unfortunate loss of his beloved wife during childbirth. Since that time, six years ago, Moger has filled the role of mommy and daddy, earning him the well-deserved title of the “Daddy-Mom.”
“Four years ago, my daughter Stella, now age 10, came up with the name Daddy-Mom because she says I’m doing both jobs,” said Moger. “While I strive to be a complete dad, I aspire to be at least a mediocre mom.”
Moger is a business owner and thereby able to manage his daily schedule. “I had started a business just 18 months before her passing,” he says. “God’s grace, a loving staff and patient clients helped me through the first year. Since then, it’s allowed me the flexibility to show up for my babies.”
The Moger family consists of John (14), Kate (12), Stella (10), and Zuzu (6). Moger strives to give “his babies” a well-rounded life. His children have several activities that keep him on the go, including guitar and piano lessons, ballet and of course Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts. “Daddies hold a special place in a little girl’s heart,” says Moger. “I want my little girls to set the bar high. They’re worth it! So it’s only natural that I should support things that they’re involved with – like Girl Scouts. I know they’ve felt pride having me do things with their troop and that has cemented our bond. That’s why I do it.”
In addition to his well-deserved title of the Daddy-Mom, Moger might also be called “Betty Crocker Dad.” Approximately three years ago, his daughter Kate’s troop was planning to bake at one of her Girl Scout meetings. However, when Moger learned that the girls would be making a “box” cake, he volunteered to teach them how to make a cake from scratch and show them how baking is just a form of chemistry. “Last year, I set up an assembly line in my kitchen, breakfast area and living room. Teams of girls alternated between learning, making and baking the cake in ceramic holiday ramekins. Another team created cards to go with the cakes and the last team iced and wrapped them. It was great fun!” he says.
Now, this event is known as a dad’s meeting with no moms allowed, giving the ladies much-needed time off a few weeks before Christmas. It is memories and opportunities like these that make him smile. “There are so many places for kids to learn from each other growing up. I believe Scouting provides a safe place to explore, experiment and form healthy relationships with peers. It is also where they can learn from committed adults who set an example worthy of their aspirations,” says Moger. “Scout leaders are amazing people, the kind of people I’d be happy to see my children emulate.”
Over these past six years, Moger has focused on his children and has not remarried. He still carries a torch for his wife and makes sure that their children remember her. “Every year on her birthday, we go to her resting place and share cup cakes. We write her birthday notes on balloons, gather in a circle, and say a prayer. Once everyone can see her in their minds, we release the balloons,” he reminisces.
Moger delights in taking such an active role in his children’s lives and being a part of the memories forever. “There’s no greater gift we can give our children than our time and undivided attention. Though I have four to cover, I make every effort to make sure each gets a health dose of vitamin-Dad,” says Moger. “I’m not a super dad. I’ve made mistakes along the way. I do my best. Parenting is like learning anything else, it’s not always pretty but if you focus on the ultimate outcome, it always works out.”
Moger has a message for the dads who hesitate or don’t recognize the opportunity Girl Scouting offers to bond with their daughters. “Get involved today! Kids only grow up once and every parent should make it their priority to be an example. Serving others is our core responsibility.”
National Family Week is a good time to explore ways to bond with your daughter and help her discover, connect and take action through Girl Scouts, like Moger has with his precious “babies.”
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